Chat Hels Chatroom III: We've been to Helen back!

I just said I don't even know if she IS my girl, so is it wise to pounce at her with those questions? It has been barely a week...

But what would "it" be? That's my question. I'm not bothered with the secrecy, to be honest.

 

I'm not familiar with your situation, so take my words with a grain of salt. I don't think there is anything wrong with asking for clarification. Just choose your words wisely. Only you will know whats best.

 

Ok, I'm back, what'd I miss?

 

She is 100% japanese, born and raised. This is not your typical western couple. If it were someone from Brazil I wouldn't think twice about skinship or even plain old making out, but this is very different. And we've only known each other for a couple of weeks.

And neither of us is staying in Vancouver for long, so I don't think this have any long term future.

 

This may just be my opinion, but I'd say nice 'n easy. Take it slow, you have the time, and she deserves her time as well. Be sure of your own feelings and it'll come naturally.

 

THE SPICE!

Yeah, I think to solve this situation we need some more people

I summon @Surenu, @MilkCalf, @BigEaredKittens, and @Charlatan !

I agree, time is an important factor.

 

I agree. I'm fine with giving Yuki all the time she needs. Well, all the time we have left here anyways.

Thing is, it seems I secrete a special pheromone when I am with someone, which makes other girls take an unusual interest in this piece of high tech.

 

I don't see what her being Japanese has any merit in this decision. I've met a lot of Korean girls, and while there are cultural differences, I don't think that is a deal breaker even if it isn't your typical western couple. Just have confidence, and take your time. As far as I can tell there doesn't seem to be any hurry to have this kind of conversation with her as of right now.

 

I am very confused, why don't you guys do long distance?

 

because that doesn't work?

 

Yeah, good point...

 

Keep an eyeglass on here and let time tell. I think it's too early to tell. Transient woman or not.

Then again, you've also got me really confused, so I might be missing the point...

 

Sorry mate, I should have clarified. That is not what I meant myself. I just mean that cutural differences can be daunting but not impossible. But it is as I said, if you feel like it will not go anywhere, there is no reason to feel like you're tied down.

 

Ditto

 

Ok, I'll try to be as clear as I can.

So, one week ago this japanese girl I met here at the english school and I became kind of close. I can't really be more specific about that because I don't know exactly what that means myself (when I said I had a japanese gf a few days ago, I might've been overreacting), and I don't feel that forcing the issue with her is a good idea.

This week, a new student started her english course here, and she is my classmate too. Thing is, she is rather cute. And interesting. And is asking me some very personal questions. And I am not sure about what I should do here.

There. Can't be any clearer than that because I am missing some key information myself.
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Does this look like I am bragging? I am not, I swear. I might be terribly misunderstanding the circunstances, but I am not stroking my ego. I am really not used to this kind of attention...

yeah, I get what you mean. And for what it's worth, the second girl is german so there is a cultural difference regardless.

And I deleted that post because Tapatalk showed me a double post. But like a fricking M. Night Shyamalan script, it was the same post all along!

 

Take it from someone of the same cultural background as hers: She either has the hots for ya or has a friend who does.

 

Well, she hasn't asked how's my undercarriage so far. If she does, I might as well just show, not tell.

NO! BAD ROBOT! BAD!

 

From the information you've provided; the japanese lady sounds like a transient that requires work, but could be worth it depending on what you're looknig for. The german sounds like a trickster and I wouldn't trust her for a while. I'd likely put her through the trials to make sure she's not up to something.

I got my biases and all that,but as a non-westerner, how I was taught it's supposed to be is; skinship and making out off the bat are forbidden. It takes years to build up the trust for that type of thing, while you get to know somebody, supposedly. I mena, in a relationship that's your choice that is. If it's and arranged marriage between two children as couple or young two adults as couple, love is supposed to come later and is supposedly the truest love so I've been told. rarely do these couples fight, tho I don't really believe that.

Granted, I'm not japanese and the ethnic group I am actually a part of is rather ghetto and is infested with domestic violence enough to cause us protests. Noting my own warped sense of proper relationships, my words here are probably not the most useful to you, I'm guessing.

TLDR, I'd leave the door open a bit for either one of them.

 

This, basically. It's not like you're in a stage that requires commitment with either of 'em.

 

Kittens, you're not nearly as much appreciated irl as you should be, it seems.

Thanks. For now, I'll just adopt a wait and see approach.