Multiplayer doesn't work

I haven't been able to find anyone else with the same issue that wasn't resolved somehow last year, but when i bought the game, "maybe a week or so ago" I loved playing with my 2 friends and we had a multiplayer save goin and everything was fine until one day my entire capability to play with anyone in any way just vanished. I don't know what happened and I doubt I've done anything different from how i ran the game prior, but i just straight up can't host or join any of my friends games anymore, it always goes to the same 'connection failed' screen after loading for a bit after choosing my character. "this is online across wifis btw". I have tried just about everything i could think of, I've: tried friend invitation codes, trying through steam invite, verifying cache, update checks, restarting pc, having my friends restart theirs, restarting servers/ making new ones, deleting the game and reinstalling, changing regions, antivirus on off; literally nothing me or my friends have come up with has helped fix this and it sucks because now I'm just left out of the save we started together :\

I'd love whoever can help out so I can fully use this great game and not have to play alone

 

lol sry for the misunderstanding im talking about stardew